Month: May 2017

12 Branches from the Tree of Life

12 Branches from the Tree of Life

Life is full of lessons.  Lessons are learned, relearned and new ones added daily.  From the time we are born to the day we depart, we are in lesson mode.  Here are twelve of the many lessons that I’ve picked up along my journey so far.

  1. Sometimes life seems unfair, but be just in your actions anyway
  2. Enjoy getting older, after all there’s only one way around it
  3. Everyone isn’t going to like you, love them anyway
  4. Happiness is a choice and so is unhappiness choose wisely
  5. Your feelings are your feelings; Allow yourself to feel what you feel when you feel it
  6. You are the star in your own life movie, choose who fills the supporting roles carefully
  7. No explanations are required, “no is a complete sentence” (Haven’t mastered this one yet)
  8. Yes is a complete sentence too; Say yes to yourself more (Making progress on this one)
  9. Who you are is just as important as What you are, if not more so
  10. It’s okay to be different; It keeps life interesting
  11. “Timing really is everything” so pay attention and wait for your time
  12. It will find You when you’re not looking for it (this applies to everything from love to lost items)


Defining Your Happiness

Defining Your Happiness

Do you remember having to look up vocabulary words in English class?  For me it involved the use of a large hardcover dictionary, for some of you  or a similar website may have been your source.  No matter what source was used, you found that most words were not limited to one definition, but often there were multiple meanings.

Happiness is a trending term.  It is a broad word that many try to define narrowly.  Many self-help books have been written on it, public speakers hold seminars and conferences about it, life coaches offer their services to help guide you to it…..

What does it mean?

Just like many other words, happiness has more than one definition. gives two:  the quality or state of being happy is the first and most basic meaning and the second is good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy.  So now that we have it defined, how do we reach this state of being happy?  How do we obtain good fortune, pleasure, contentment, joy? Is it something to be pursued or do we already have it innately in us?

My Happy/Your Happy

For some happiness is attached to material things and social status.  Careers, money, houses, cars, designer clothes, jewelry are the indicators of happiness for them.  Relationships are the source of happiness for many:  significant others, family, and friends determine whether or not they are happy.  Others equate a spiritual connection to happiness.  Having a relationship with God or their ascribed higher power defines their happy.  I think that happiness is innately within us and that sometimes it gets buried underneath some “stuff” but it still lives.  For me God is the main source of my happiness, but I believe that contentment with my relationships, career, and having some of the material things that I desire further contribute to it.

What does happiness mean to you?

How you choose to define your happiness is just that, your choice.  Choose it on your own terms and not someone else’s borrowed definition.